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Written by crizlai on Jan 1st, 2011 | Filed under: flowers, life, lifestyle, love, relationship, tips, valentime


Flowers are always a nice gift for your Valentine but at times you may find it hard to choose which species that would be ideal for your love. I’m sure the chosen flower experts would be more than glad to advise you on whichever flowers that would suit your liking and budget. You may go for peach or yellow colored flowers for friendship, red camellias to declare your flame or orange blossoms to show your eternal love. In summary, a few colors are quite in favorite during Valentine’s Day. Red symbolizes love, desire and passion; orange symbolizes strong love, desire and enthusiasm; and pink are usually given to represent admiration, appreciation and gratitude.

With Valentine’s Day just around the corner, I’m sure that most of you would want to get something fresh and nice to make your loved ones happy. Won’t you love it too when you have some great offers or discounts on top of your purchases? Well, I found the Proflowers codes real impressive when it comes to getting the best offer available on the market. They even have a track record of over 30 million bouquets sent out to date.

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Written by crizlai on Sep 1st, 2008 | Filed under: life, love, marriage, mood, rant, relationship, trading









When was the last time you ever sat down with your partner to enjoy your evening away in a perfect environment? Most of us would just utter “Errr…”! No matter whether you are still dating or married for many years, life would somehow get monotonous if nothing was done to spice things up. “Surprises” is the key for a closer relationship. Taking your “date” to a posh restaurant might be a good surprise but in the end of the day, your budget may burst due to the unnecessary expenditure incurred unless you are rich enough to foot the bills without thinking twice. But then, there won’t be much of a surprise as dining out would be such a routine.

Why don’t you plan something way out from your norm as to prepare a meal for your partner in the comfort of your home? It does not have to be a grand affair but getting some takeaways and lay the food on the table might not be cool at all. Even though if you have never stepped foot into a kitchen before, you can always get some simple recipes online and get them prepared with ease. You can even consult your friends for some great recipes which you can whip up in no time.

On the day of the surprise, just make sure that your partner would be available for an eat-out. Prior to her returning home from work or some errands, storm the kitchen with the ingredients that you had pre-ordered. Work out a menu to be served and work on your culinary skills to surprise her. It might not turn out great as a first timer but it’s your action that will make her stunned.

To create a great ambience for the occasion, set your indoor lighting right. Get a dimmer for your lighting if you have to. Dim down the lights and set a couple of candles, some floral arrangement and a stalk of rose just for her on the table for a romantic dinner ahead. You may want to play some soft background music to bring back the days of your early dating. If you think that this romantic rendezvous might not be good enough to impress her, you can always cook up something special that may make this special day the date of your life time. After all, how successful the surprise will be lies in the creativity within your heart and soul.

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Written by crizlai on Jun 9th, 2008 | Filed under: announcement, family, life, love, parenting, relationship









When was the last time you ever contacted your Dad? Have you even notice that he has aged a lot. Did you give him a hug recently? Do you realize that this coming Sunday, 15 June 2008 is Fathers’ Day? If you have not done so, please go over to pay him a visit not only this Sunday but many days after that. All fathers, whether they are your biological one, adopted one or even someone you respect as a father figure, would love to get at least some acknowledgments.

Some of you may choose to spend this special day with your father by buying him gifts, cook something special for him or even take him out for a nice meal. When it comes to deciding what sort of gift for him, many of us will be stressed out as shopping for some fathers could be rather hard. Gifts for fathers should reflect the personality of the father. It could also be something that can bring back memories of the bond between you and your father. As for me, I would prefer to give my father a red packet as in the Chinese custom. It symbolizes longevity, health and prosperity. At least he can spend the amount on whatever he wants. Some will give him some shopping vouchers, vacation tickets or even engraved pens if he is still in the corporate world.

Not all fathers are so materialistic as to demand for something of monetary value. There are many things that he cannot do physically now and a simple gesture of helping in household chores would be of value to him. They do not expect much from their children since most of them have grown up and have their own lives. A simple gesture of a long loving hug and some quality time spent together will be much appreciated.

Fathers are also human beings with feelings. He will feel unappreciated for the sacrifices he has made throughout your growing up years. Do not make your father feel so inferior in his life for feeling the rejection from you. Show him what you can do by showering him with your endless love. Let him know that he is always being remembered by you. Prove to him that you are still a filial child not only on Fathers’ Day but also for many years to come.

I love you Dad…Happy Fathers’ Day

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Written by crizlai on Apr 9th, 2008 | Filed under: life, parenting, relationship








Do you ever stop for awhile and watch all the picture frames being displayed in your living room or you simply walk by without taking heed of whoever child’s photos being exhibit there? If you have never spent at least a split second of your time in looking at the photos, it clearly shows that you have practically no time at all in having watchful eyes over what your child has been doing. This may sounds bad as a child may accumulate bad habits in your absence and it may be too late for any rectification by the time you realized them.

There is no doubt that any child will often go astray if there is no proper guidance in his life. A child’s mind is like a glass of drinking water. It is so clear, so pure and free from any pollutants. If there is no guidance in showing that too much salt or sugar being added to that glass of water will be hazardous to the health of a child, how would he know? He will add in more and more each day without knowing how to stop. Eventually, he would become so sick that only professional medical advice would be able to help him. Isn’t that too late? How about the medical expenses and the after effect consequences that the child will experience?

Bringing up a child is not as easy as it sounds. It takes the responsibilities, commitment, effort and time of parents to observe those bad habit symptoms and correct them one by one. The most important thing is that parents must be there for the child at all times no matter how busy or stressful their lives would be. If you do not understand your child well, who else in this world will? Do not forget that a child’s emotions, habits, manners and characters derived from how well he is being polished by the parents to survive well in the society.

I have written earlier on the instincts of a child in growing up strong and having a stand in differentiating what is right or wrong. The instinct mentioned is the basis of emotion; emotion is the basis of habit and habit is the basis or manner and character which will be perceived by others. This is how the society judged on a person as mannerism determined the personality of a person. How good or bad a child may grow up to be depended on the causes mentioned above.

Knowing the importance of these causes, don’t you think it is high time to spend more time with your child and eradicate whatever destructive behaviors and habits that they might gather? You are your child’s eyes and ears at this stage. Hopefully that whatever you have taught them now will eventually make them your hands and legs when they have grown up to be successful in this world. So, take this as homework to observe the physical and verbal mannerism of your child this weekend. Are they good or are they bad? Take some action before it goes out of hands!

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Written by crizlai on Mar 12th, 2008 | Filed under: life, parenting, rant, relationship









In this era where both parents belong to the working group, bringing up a child could be rather stressful. The future characteristics of the child could turn for the worst if he is not always under the watchful eyes of the parents in guiding him to differentiate the right from the wrong.

A child’s mind is like a dam. It slowly accumulates drops by drops of water into his mind. The mind has to be built strong to be able to withstand the pressure and forces of the water. Tons and tons of water flow into this dam and if no proper management is executed, it will just crumble and fall. Parents are like the person manning the dam. They will be there to ensure that several drainages are built to let the excess water flows out of it. Children are just not wise enough to see the danger level posed by the water. That is why parents are much needed to show and guide us towards the safety level in our life.

How children develop and succeed in the society depends on how well they are taught to understand and control their basic instincts. As a parent, you should take note of all the requirements a child will need and showing him which is the best amongst the many options he has in his life. Here are some of the basic instincts that you should inject into their young minds.

Survival Instinct: Food is something that everyone will need in order to survive but what goes inside will have the side effects on a child’s health. A child should be taught on how to consume nutritious food rather than fatty food which in turn will ruin his growing up. You sure do not want your child to have obesity, diabetes or heart problems when they grow up right?

Social Instinct: Humans are born to be social animals and they hate being lonely. As age catches up, they tend to gather more friends and forming more groups. Lifestyles will change so are the languages used. Children tend to follow what majority do. This is the time parents should be there to guide them to differentiate the good from the evil. Shutting a child down from the outside world is discouraged here as it will make the child inactive mentally and physically. Learning the hard way and falling down are part of the growing up process and parents are there only to guide those fallen child to brave it out.

Fear Instinct: Have you ever encountered people your age having the phobia or fear in carrying out certain duties? Most of the time, it is due to their bad childhood experiences. When they were young, they had bad encounters with fear such as stranded in dark places, mentally and physically abuse, loud chilling scream, thunder and lightning, seeing something frightening or getting attacked by something or someone. During these traumas, they needed someone to be by their side but they found none. As parents, try to be available whenever a child needed some comfort and security. This will surely help him to face the society in a more courageous way.

Status Instinct: I have worked in this society for so long and met many different types of people in the process. Most of the time, I have seen people with strong superiority complexes, looking down upon those who he deemed unfit to be around him. Those victims were not even given the chances to prove their worthiness. It is fine to feel proud with one’s achievement but having too much pride will not ensure a smoother working relationship. Different people take different paces in progressing in their lives and they should be given the benefit of doubts in whatever tasks there are given. Although every parent would want their children to excel in whatever they were doing, they should instill in the mind of their children the sense of humbleness, compassion and willingness to help those who are weaker than they are. Whether you want your child to be a down to earth person or you wished to make him into a so called “commander” in the future depends on how you educate him today.

Love Instinct: Life will not continue to exist if there was no love. With love, there tend to be lust and sexual urge. I have noticed that the kids of today are no longer in control of their sexual desires. This could be due to the information filled internet access and many adults movies that are easily accessible in the market. It used to be the headaches of parents trying to tell them about the bees and the flowers but now kids are learning about sex even at a tender age. With the changes in times, there is no stopping to this growing up process. Parents are to ensure that their children know about the value of a life which should not be created out of carelessness. There should always be proper planning and stable income in ensuring the future of a newly born. Sorry to say, I have overheard many barely legal age teens describing their sexual experiences and it is scary to know that they are still schooling. I just hope that some actions can be taken at the root to avoid this social sickness. Think about it!

Do keep a watch out for the next series on knowing your child’s habits in the next post.

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